Today was a good day for the most part. I ave been going through some things with my 14 yr old and alot has to do with the fact her father treats her less than trash. I recently dropped her off to his sister in laws house where he lives and pays rent and he called me tried belittling me instead of addressing what was wrong with our daughter. His sister in law tries to curse me out saying leaving my daughter there was disrespectful and what kind of mother drops off her kid with no money and clothes (mind you her father hasn't paid child support in 2 yrs) so I inform her to let him know. She told me he was moving out tomorrow and I need to stop having kids and that's why i'm single. Mind you as well my 14 has been hanging with gang members and had told her school the same day the reason she was intrested in being in a gang is because her father glorfies being a blood and having sex on his social media. So, I wanted him to talk to her so he can see how he is effecting her. When I picked her up the next day the sister in law hit me and we fought (I'm 7 months pregnant with twins btw) and lied and said my daughter's father wasn't there and never came.
Once I get my daughter in the car, she tells me her father was there before he went to work and came back after work and all he said to her was "what's your mother's phone number."
Now, I'm also pregnant with twins by this individual who I believed to be so awesome. However, before I found out I was pregnant I started acting strange. My cousin told me today thats an excuse and nobody wants to hear that. However, I honestly thought I was going crazy until I took a pregnancy test and this great guy abandoned me, it bothered me to the point my cousin convinced me to go to his mother's house and tell her so she could tell him. However, his mom made it seem like it was my fault and ever since then he blocked me on social media, blocked my phone number and moved on with some ditzy girl he use to deal with in the past. Even buying her christian louboutins and whatever else while I try to scrap up as much funds as possible so I can have for my twins.
I have been strong and happy 90% of this pregnancy despite all that. However, today I feel hurt, lonely and want to know why me? I mean no harm to others, I work hard, I try to be the best mom I can but yet I have nobody helping me rather against me I feel. I just want the twins father back in my life as my friend. Having to do this alone is hurtful. Unfortunately, I haven't found any programs that help multiple single parents that can help with cars, carseat and stroller cost.
I guess today could've been better but at the moment I'm having a moment.
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Saturday, May 20, 2017
Today's emotional ride with my twin pregnancy
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Sunday, January 29, 2017
Baby Shower Gift Ideas for Twins Under $50.00
I have been a mother twice already. I have my
lovely teenager daughter, going through the great puberty stage which comes
with a lot of rebellion. I also have a three year old boy who I spoiled
enormously and will forever be my baby and now I have twins on the way. I know
the gender of my two new little ones I am expecting but I’m not ready to share
just yet.
On my quest to find out what being a twin mom is all about, I am learning a lot of new things. Some of the things I’m learning are making me a bit paranoid; it has me questioning myself if I can really handle this task.
As I am going through baby products for twins, I have come across a few essentials that every twin mom will need plenty of - in stock. When there is more than one you need double or even triple of what you had for a singleton.
Below I have listed the Top 10 Items a twin mom will need plenty of.
If you’re a mom make sure you stock up before the 2 new blessing arrive or if you are baby shower shopping for twins, these are some great ideas and they are all under $50.00.
1. Full Supply of Diapers (Disposable or Cloth) and Wipes
You can expect each baby to soil/wet 8 to 12 diapers a day for at least the first two months. You will go through 960 to 1,440 diapers in your first 60 days alone. If you use cloth diapers, keep in mind you will save plenty of money that you could use toward other essential items.
2. Diaper Genie
3. My Best Friend Twin Nursing Pillow
I have always breasted my kids, and was wondering how I was going to manage two babies at once that want a feeding. My Best Friend Twin Nursing Pillow was recommended to me by a old HS friend who also has twins. Despite it comes in green the pillow was made to support new mothers of breastfeeding twins. The pillow wraps securely around your body with an adjustable fit for most sizes.
4. Car
Seat Canopies
Canopies either for car seat or for the stroller are another essential. I keeps, the sun/rain off of baby as well as bugs and strangers who may feel the need to be all in your babies face.
5. Batteries
Most baby toys, swings, rockers etc., C and D
batteries are most common for larger items like a swing, but AA and AAA are
commonly used for vibration in a bouncy chair or swing.
6. Fisher Price Rock & Play Sleeper
6. Fisher Price Rock & Play Sleeper
Fisher Price Rock & Play Sleeper has an inclined sleeper and playtime seat in on with calming vibrations. The inclined seat helps baby sleep all night long. Definitely a plus when one or both babies are having a uptight day.
Other gift ideas are gift cards, a night
of volunteering babysitting, Blooming baby bath, coming over and cooking a meal for mom and/or dad.
Otherwise, plenty of diapers, onesies and wipes will be the biggest help.
Wednesday, January 25, 2017
Pregnancy Spa Day at Spa Dew in Fort Lee,NJ
I have been overwhelmed at some parts of this pregnancy and was in desperate need of a full body massage and a facial. I have been to Massage Envy before for a massage but the service didn’t seem personalized; it’s more of a commercial service like the company if you get my drift. I also had a fabulous male massage therapist but he talked throughout the whole massage, so I didn’t get the relaxation I needed. Therefore, I goggled local spa’s that where small and would give me the proper time, relaxation and dealt with pregnant customers and I came across Spa Dew - Dew beauty& wellness in Fort Lee, NJ.
I called Spa Dew on Sunday around 5pm and I was surprised they were still open that late on a Sunday and I made an appointment for the following day for 12pm. I informed the receptionist, Joy that I wanted a facial, preferably a Microdermabrasion which is a treatment that uses micronized crystals to reduce fine lines, improve scarring, diminish hyper-pigmentation, and smooth rough skin. It leaves your skin softer and refreshed, revives your skin texture and adds a lasting glow to your appearance. This procedure is costly and at Spa Dew it’s is 80 min and cost $155. Joy, told me that they would have to look at my skin to get a better idea of what kind of facial I really needed and what treatment would be best. Also being that I was pregnant she needed to know how many months/weeks I was because they only will see you after you are in your second trimester due to the fact they don’t want to hurt the baby in anyway.
I arrived to Spa Dew on Monday at around 11:57 am. When I first Stepped it was dim, with tranquil music on with great aroma, however, I was a bit skeptical because there was nobody at the desk so I
looked around for a bell, nothing, so I just ended up sitting down in one of the leather chairs they had. After, waiting 8 minutes one of the employees saw me sitting and came over and handed me a 1 page client info sheet to fill out. Once I finished another employee came and took me to the locker room, where you can put away your belongings in a locker ( No you don’t have to pay a quarter to lock it, it has a lock that you make up your own 4 number password put it in twice and your things are locked up). They had flip flops and a robe laid out for me to put on after I removed my clothing, (I was told to only leave my panties on).
The massage therapist was the original woman that took me to the locker room, but I didn’t know until she was took me from the locker room to the massage room. The spa is owned and operated by Koreans and there was a little bit of a language barrier, but not a main concern for me especially if she was going to give me a great massage (fingers were crossed).
Being that I am pregnant I had to lie on my side the whole time. I was given a pillow for between my legs, which was a big help. I didn’t know what to expect besides some oil and a rub down. However, I got the Prenatal massage which is a Nurturing massage for mother-to-be after the first trimester, designed to assist with relieving pregnancy-related discomforts and benefits both mother and baby, along with warm stone treatment. OH MY, that was the best thing ever. I highly recommend you get that if you never have or wondering how it felt. The oil mixed with the warm stones being massaged onto your skin felt like heaven. I really wanted it to be longer than 50 min, but I was having a facial right after so stayed content with the 50 min session.
After my massage was over I was taken by the facial specialist to another room across the hall that facials are done in. They had about 2/3 room on each side the massage rooms on one side and facial rooms on the other.
I know how to say Hello in Korean so I greeted the facial therapist with “yeoboseyo” which is hello
in Korean. She was surprised and smiled saying you know Korean, I let her know I only knew that
word and another which wasn’t a nice word, she laughed as she laid me down on my back, making
sure I was comfortable. The owner, whose name is Jasmine came in and asked if my massage was well
and what kind of facial I wanted, I told her I wanted Microdermabrsion. Jasmine then took a min and
looked at my skin and said the Vitamin facial would be much better for me.
the Vitamin facial is an intensive treatment for sensitive, dry or
environmentally stressed skin. High potency vitamin C stimulates the vital
functions of the skin and revitalizes damaged cells. This formulated treatment
repairs and restores by providing vitamins and antioxidants deeply into the
dermis level. Leave with refreshed and renewed all over.
This facial is about 75 min and cost about $125. It was relaxing as well. After
she cleanses your face, she puts a mask on you that has to sit for about 30 min.
After she removes the mask she goes over your skin again. I basically slept
through the whole facial.
After you’re finished with your treatments and you go back into the locker room, they have brand new toothbrushes still in wrapper to brush your teeth with toothpaste that is also provided and it’s a brand we all know just FYI lol--- Colgate. I took full advantage of because my breath did feel kind of tart after all of that. They also have a hair dryer, lotion, comb, hair spray and bottled water available.
I must say my overall experience at Spa Dew was great, it was clean, staff was friendly and it is very personalized. I definitely recommend Spa Dew but only if you can afford it of course, and I know I will be going back again in the near future.
I called Spa Dew on Sunday around 5pm and I was surprised they were still open that late on a Sunday and I made an appointment for the following day for 12pm. I informed the receptionist, Joy that I wanted a facial, preferably a Microdermabrasion which is a treatment that uses micronized crystals to reduce fine lines, improve scarring, diminish hyper-pigmentation, and smooth rough skin. It leaves your skin softer and refreshed, revives your skin texture and adds a lasting glow to your appearance. This procedure is costly and at Spa Dew it’s is 80 min and cost $155. Joy, told me that they would have to look at my skin to get a better idea of what kind of facial I really needed and what treatment would be best. Also being that I was pregnant she needed to know how many months/weeks I was because they only will see you after you are in your second trimester due to the fact they don’t want to hurt the baby in anyway.
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| Lockers available |
looked around for a bell, nothing, so I just ended up sitting down in one of the leather chairs they had. After, waiting 8 minutes one of the employees saw me sitting and came over and handed me a 1 page client info sheet to fill out. Once I finished another employee came and took me to the locker room, where you can put away your belongings in a locker ( No you don’t have to pay a quarter to lock it, it has a lock that you make up your own 4 number password put it in twice and your things are locked up). They had flip flops and a robe laid out for me to put on after I removed my clothing, (I was told to only leave my panties on).
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| They provide a Robe and Flip Flops |
Being that I am pregnant I had to lie on my side the whole time. I was given a pillow for between my legs, which was a big help. I didn’t know what to expect besides some oil and a rub down. However, I got the Prenatal massage which is a Nurturing massage for mother-to-be after the first trimester, designed to assist with relieving pregnancy-related discomforts and benefits both mother and baby, along with warm stone treatment. OH MY, that was the best thing ever. I highly recommend you get that if you never have or wondering how it felt. The oil mixed with the warm stones being massaged onto your skin felt like heaven. I really wanted it to be longer than 50 min, but I was having a facial right after so stayed content with the 50 min session.
After my massage was over I was taken by the facial specialist to another room across the hall that facials are done in. They had about 2/3 room on each side the massage rooms on one side and facial rooms on the other.
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| Toothbrush, toothpaste, lotion and combs are available |
After you’re finished with your treatments and you go back into the locker room, they have brand new toothbrushes still in wrapper to brush your teeth with toothpaste that is also provided and it’s a brand we all know just FYI lol--- Colgate. I took full advantage of because my breath did feel kind of tart after all of that. They also have a hair dryer, lotion, comb, hair spray and bottled water available.
I must say my overall experience at Spa Dew was great, it was clean, staff was friendly and it is very personalized. I definitely recommend Spa Dew but only if you can afford it of course, and I know I will be going back again in the near future.
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Wednesday, January 18, 2017
The Questions I have Expecting Twins!!!
This experience is so new to me, I think I am still in shock that in a few more months that I will have identical babies to love and nurture.
However, I have so many questions and concerns. How do I know I won't mix one up with the other when giving medication if both are sick and accidentally give one of them two doses?
How will I manage breast feeding if they are both hungry and crying at the same time?
Will I need to get two bassinet's instead of one?
Why are the double strollers so ugly, and the ones that do look super cute way more than my rent?
Will I need to buy some sort of jewelry or mark them with a pen to know who is who until I learn who they are?
Then I have the regular concerns, who will they look like? What will I name them? Who's last name will they have? Will it be hard trying to handle newborns and a 3 year old who is attached to me?
Are there any twin pregnancy groups in my area, I can connect with and help me with my concerns? I definitely will be looking into that today.
Everyday, my head is going crazy with questions and concerns. Not only double the babies but double the thoughts lol.
If any mother out there that has twins and wants to give her input please do so. Also follow my journey on YouTube as I discuss my pregnancy journey!!!
However, I have so many questions and concerns. How do I know I won't mix one up with the other when giving medication if both are sick and accidentally give one of them two doses?
How will I manage breast feeding if they are both hungry and crying at the same time?
Will I need to get two bassinet's instead of one?
Why are the double strollers so ugly, and the ones that do look super cute way more than my rent?
Will I need to buy some sort of jewelry or mark them with a pen to know who is who until I learn who they are?
Then I have the regular concerns, who will they look like? What will I name them? Who's last name will they have? Will it be hard trying to handle newborns and a 3 year old who is attached to me?
Are there any twin pregnancy groups in my area, I can connect with and help me with my concerns? I definitely will be looking into that today.
Everyday, my head is going crazy with questions and concerns. Not only double the babies but double the thoughts lol.
If any mother out there that has twins and wants to give her input please do so. Also follow my journey on YouTube as I discuss my pregnancy journey!!!
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Wednesday, January 11, 2017
The 411 on Identical Twins
As you may know or may not know I'm expecting monochorionic twins which means I'm having identical twins.
I don't have twins in my family however, the father already has a set of fraternal twins so I assumed it was genetic and he is the one that gave me twins. However, after my first visit with a multiple birth specialist which I was referred to by my doctor I found out a lot of information.
I was recommended to see Dr. Russell Miller at Columbia Presbyterian Hospital in New York and Dr. Miller gave me a lot of information that I did not know about when conceiving carrying and delivering identical twins.
Fraternal twins are the only twins that are conceived through genetics identical twins however are not and like Dr. Miller said "it's the luck of the draw." Identical twins happen spontaneously it was just a coincidence my partner already had a set of fraternal twins.
According to scientists identical twins occur when the blastocyst AKA fertilized cell mysteriously splits into two.
Monochronic Twin occur in 0.3% of all pregnancies and mostly occur in older women due to hormonal changes, so I guess I'm considered older lol.
Identical twins are rare and occur randomly and that's what makes it a true blessing.
There are also a lot of complications when carrying these kind of twins because they share one placenta.
As of right now Dr. Miller told me to be aware that maybe one twin is getting more blood and nutrients from the placenta than the other one and this is often a common problem when carrying identical twins and is called unequal placenta sharing.
Another issue can be TTS which is twin to Twin transfusion syndrome meaning one baby is getting more blood supply than the other one, which can be very dangerous, even causing death to one of the babies which in turn will affect the other baby as well since they are connected through one placenta.
Also when delivering there is a high chance of a lot of loosing alot of bleeding which may result in needing a blood transfusion which some people like myself don't believe in and could possibly end in death.
Although the Doctor was not trying to scare me there are a lot of concerns that I am now aware of. I'm glad I'm aware but the same time it makes me me more cautionary on how to take care of myself while I'm pregnant and hopefully I will have a healthy delivery with two healthy babies who I cannot wait to meet.
I don't have twins in my family however, the father already has a set of fraternal twins so I assumed it was genetic and he is the one that gave me twins. However, after my first visit with a multiple birth specialist which I was referred to by my doctor I found out a lot of information.
I was recommended to see Dr. Russell Miller at Columbia Presbyterian Hospital in New York and Dr. Miller gave me a lot of information that I did not know about when conceiving carrying and delivering identical twins.
Fraternal twins are the only twins that are conceived through genetics identical twins however are not and like Dr. Miller said "it's the luck of the draw." Identical twins happen spontaneously it was just a coincidence my partner already had a set of fraternal twins.
According to scientists identical twins occur when the blastocyst AKA fertilized cell mysteriously splits into two.
Monochronic Twin occur in 0.3% of all pregnancies and mostly occur in older women due to hormonal changes, so I guess I'm considered older lol.
Identical twins are rare and occur randomly and that's what makes it a true blessing.
There are also a lot of complications when carrying these kind of twins because they share one placenta.
As of right now Dr. Miller told me to be aware that maybe one twin is getting more blood and nutrients from the placenta than the other one and this is often a common problem when carrying identical twins and is called unequal placenta sharing.
Another issue can be TTS which is twin to Twin transfusion syndrome meaning one baby is getting more blood supply than the other one, which can be very dangerous, even causing death to one of the babies which in turn will affect the other baby as well since they are connected through one placenta.
Also when delivering there is a high chance of a lot of loosing alot of bleeding which may result in needing a blood transfusion which some people like myself don't believe in and could possibly end in death.
Although the Doctor was not trying to scare me there are a lot of concerns that I am now aware of. I'm glad I'm aware but the same time it makes me me more cautionary on how to take care of myself while I'm pregnant and hopefully I will have a healthy delivery with two healthy babies who I cannot wait to meet.
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