As a hard-working college student and maintaining a full-time job I would never have imagine me being a mom at 20.
My daughter's father was someone of a different caliber than I, somewhat of a less caliber I may add. He already had two kids my two different girls at the age of 20.
He told me he would be there for me which he was somewhat but he was too really to busy cheating to really be there.
My daughter was his only child he saw born and I thought that would make him grow up. However, that was a negative.
We did get engaged but also had to deal with him cheating with a lot of girls and doing a two-year jail sentence with him. After seven years on and off I couldn't take the lies cheating and to top it off the neglect that I was given when I gave birth to a stillborn fetus alone.
The road with my daughter hasn't been easy we've had lived in shelters, on floors and from house to house. There were days we didn't have food there were even times when I went to Social Services in New Jersey and got denied living assistance because I had moved from New Jersey to another state then moved back because I had nowhere to go. Then when I tried to get child support, I was told I had to go find my daughter's father and then call the Warrant Squad and tell them where he was and exactly what he was wearing so they could pick him up, meantime he's in the rears for around $50,000.
Being a single mom help to see who your real friends are and trust me you don't have as many as you may think.
He told me he would be there for me which he was somewhat but he was too really to busy cheating to really be there.
My daughter was his only child he saw born and I thought that would make him grow up. However, that was a negative.
We did get engaged but also had to deal with him cheating with a lot of girls and doing a two-year jail sentence with him. After seven years on and off I couldn't take the lies cheating and to top it off the neglect that I was given when I gave birth to a stillborn fetus alone.
The road with my daughter hasn't been easy we've had lived in shelters, on floors and from house to house. There were days we didn't have food there were even times when I went to Social Services in New Jersey and got denied living assistance because I had moved from New Jersey to another state then moved back because I had nowhere to go. Then when I tried to get child support, I was told I had to go find my daughter's father and then call the Warrant Squad and tell them where he was and exactly what he was wearing so they could pick him up, meantime he's in the rears for around $50,000.
Being a single mom help to see who your real friends are and trust me you don't have as many as you may think.
I turned 31 I met another gentleman well someone I thought was gentleman LOL. After a year being together but not really knowing him I got pregnant with my son. Even though I didn't have the same struggles I had with my daughter I had to deal with it man who had a whole other life in another town. He had a girlfriend of 12 Years he had a drug problem and a history of domestic violence and he also turned out to be a stalker. I did end up going to a domestic violence shelter because he would hide in bushes by my home or come by all types of the night knocking on my door or on my window. I tried to make it work for the sake of my son because I didn't want to feel like a failure yet again and not giving my kids a family or a father.
As a woman and mother you have to think about what's best for your kids. Yelling, arguing, and fighting is definitely not so I was at it again at being a single mom. I had to realize being a single mom doesn't mean feeling, it means strength. Strength to leave a situation that isn't healthy for your kids or yourself making a good situation occur after being abandoned or having to leave a unhealthy situation.
Contributor: Danielle Turner
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